do people really change? can they?
i have a friend who, in my opinion, is going to do something stupid. while it bothers me that there’s a good chance they’ll end up getting hurt, what bothers me at least just as much is that i get the feeling that this friend also knows its stupid and could possibly get hurt, but is going to go ahead anyway. personally, i just don’t get it. then again….
i have yet another friend who has some pretty serious self-esteem issues. i think they know it, but are in such serious denial that a part of them won’t even admit it to themselves. they want to believe the world is bright and cheery and life is good. they want to believe it so badly that any thought or feeling that deviates from that belief is shouted down by effective distractions (details aren’t necessary). people have tried to talk to this friend, including myself, but they just won’t listen. in fact, they’re quite deft at deflecting the conversation entirely.