i haven’t gotten a lot of feedback on my lip sync music monday format….
here’s another one for today. one of my favorite, and less known i think, billy joel songs.
this one was a bit quicker to make, as i just used the last one as a template.
its been a busy week. at the office there’s been a notable uptick in workload. and at home, i’m putting the finishing touches on my application for graduate school.
still, i’m trying my best to post as regularly as i can….
i may have mentioned that, in a last-ditch effort to be coupled, i’ve been enrolled in two separate online dating services. i have for some time now, been receiving email notifications of “matches,” dating tips, and the like. some weeks, i pay more attention than others. sometimes all those emails to strait to my email’s trash bin.
but last week, i received one such match notification that made me seriously consider cancelling both subscriptions and settling finally into the reality of perpetual bachelorhood.
brace for the rant….
i’ve questioned from the beginning the “science” of online dating. while both match.com and eharmony claim to be great at matching someone based on some determined set of criteria. i’ve never been able to reconcile their claims with my experience and one match in particular has now convinced me they’re all snake oil salesmen.
are. you. fucking. kidding.
using what criteria can this match have been made for me? have answers to a personality questionnaire suggested i’m a repressed racist? or just a moron? or, maybe neither, but my responses otherwise imply that i’m compatible with a moron? or racist/misogynist? have i been looking for a fascist idiot this whole time and just didn’t know it?
no. i may have my own carry-on bag of crazy, but i have a pretty good idea of the type of women i’m interested in. though kinda cute, there’s no fucking way in hell this “match” could be in the ballpark of close to right for me.
so. now i’ve concluded, finally, there is no science involved. no deep analysis of my likes, dislikes, personality…, whatever. “oh, she likes dogs and romantic comedies too!” “you both work in the same field.”
in no fucking universe that exists could this crazy, moron, racist girl be compatible with me “based on 29 points” as eharmony boasts.
there’s no science, no proven technique behind online match dating. you’re chances are just as good (or not, as the case may be) that you’ll meet someone, maybe a soulmate, randomly in a bar, coffeeshop, etc.
it’s a hoax people! save your money! i’m certainly going to.
weddings are nice. they’re an excuse to travel. they’re an excuse to drink and celebrate. and, if you’re fortunate enough not to be in the wedding party, they’re an opportunity to gather with friends and relax.
this was the case back in september 2004, when i attended a college friend’s wedding in columbus, ohio. i had moved to hawaii just a couple years prior and it was the first time i’d seen a lot of my college friends since i left oxford.
a “selfie” of me looking hairless and chubby. at the time i was keeping kosher and wearing kipper at the time. my good friend and former roommate, hal. the birdie was a pretty typical pose for him (and for me too, actually). me. rudely awakened the morning of the wedding. from left to right: erin, melanie, missy, and me. “my girls”. though not evident in the photo, i had a bit of a thing for erin, who i’d see next at hal’s wedding several years later in chicago.
i had a plan this weekend. i had a to do list. but i was foiled when i woke saturday morning feeling crappy. the feeling lingered most of the weekend, which kept me from being remotely productive.
so, now it’s monday afternoon and though i’m feeling better, i’m not at 100% and still haven’t accomplished much.
that means no music monday video.
instead, i think my statement of purpose is ready for some review and critique. please don’t be shy if you have comments or suggestions.
no real post today.
i started writing something about online dating, but have put that aside for today.
in a previous post, i mentioned that i’m in the process of completing an application for graduate school. well, i’m struggling to write a strong “statement of purpose” essay. needing to get that finished, i’ve pushed off the intended post for another day.
if you’re interested and/or willing to take a look at my essay to critique, copyedit, etc. please let me know. i’ll likely be reaching out to at least one or two people to assist me.
